Human beings are social animals, as Marx said: "The essence of human beings is not an abstraction inherent in a single person, but in its reality, it is the sum total of all social relations." "After entering the university, college students are faced with a new environment, a new group, and they reintegrate various relationships, and the relationship with the people they interact with becomes their new life. Good interpersonal relationships are not only an important indicator of college students' mental health and social adaptability, but also the cornerstone of their future career development and life happiness. Therefore, here are some small suggestions for handling interpersonal relationships based on our personal experience as college students.
Wise Saying
The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.
——Theodore Roosevelt
With malice towards none, with charity for all.
——Abraham Lincoln
Judge not, that you be not judged.
——Abraham Lincoln
I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody.
——Benjamin Franklin
A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little man.
——Thomas Carlyle
To know all is to forgive all.
Getting along with others is the essence of getting ahead, success being linked with cooperation.
Kind words warm up even in winter while harsh words chill down even in summer.
Do as you would be done by.
Why
1. Some College students have problems in establishing and maintaining peer relationship.
Jealousy and competition
Lack of mutual understanding
Communication barriers
Communication barriers
Lack of self—awareness
2.Bad peer relationships can have a negative impact on college students.
So
Therefore, college students need to actively address these problems in their peer relationships, establish good communication and trust with their peers, enhance their self-awareness and social skills, and seek help and support when necessary.
This can help them build healthy peer relationships that promote their growth and development. College students should take their peer relationships seriously, actively cultivate good peer relationships, avoid the negative impact of bad peer relationships on their growth and development.
In addition, if encountering bad peer relationships, they should take prompt action to address the issues and prevent the situation from worsening.
How
A good partnership is like a bosom friend, knowing each other and caring for each other. I have you, you have me, have the same goal and pursuit. So, how do we build good relationships with our peers in college? In my opinion, we should do the following three things.
- First and foremost
Avoid futile criticism
Criticism always puts a person on the defensive and makes him strive to justify himself.For example,Lincoln attacked Shields through an anonymous letter published in the newspapers, which brought Lincoln the most terrible duel in his life. After this incident, Lincoln never wrote an insulting letter, never ridiculed anyone and never criticized anybody for anything.Lincoln once said, judge not lest you be judged.It is worth mentioning that nobody is perfect, so we should not criticize others.
- Secondly
Get along well with people.
When we dealing with people, we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.Bitter criticism caused Hardy, the sensitive novelist, to give up forever the writing of fiction. Criticism drove Chatterton, the English poet, to suicide . Franklin was very tactless in his youth,but he became so diplomatic and skillful at getting along with people that he was made American Ambassador to France.Relationships are good for your physical and mental health, for your career success, and for your happiness.
- Last but not least
Be understanding and forgiving
It ’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism and it breeds sympathy,tolerance and kindness.Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain and most fools do. Instead of condemning people , let ’s try to figure out why they do what they do .There is an old saying, bear the calm for a moment, take a step back.Understanding and forgiving make people calm down and reduce conflicts with others，and help to form good interpersonal relationships.
Meanings
·The importance of getting along well with others.
1.Personal Growth and Development.
Friendly coexistence contributes to our establishment of positive interpersonal relationships, enhancing social skills and communication techniques.Through interactions and collaborations with others,we can learn different perspectives and experiences,broadening our vision and knowledge. Meanwhile,good interpersonal relationships can provide us with support and assistance, strengthening our self-confidence and problem-solving abilities.
2.Promoting Social Harmony.
Friendly coexistence serves as the cornerstone for building a harmonious society.When individuals respect, understand, and support each other, conflicts and contradictions in society are reduced,fostering a more harmonious social environment.Friendly coexistence strengthens comnunity cohesion, Promotes social unity and stability, and allows people to live and work in peace.
3.Driving Personal and Societal Progress.
Friendly coexistence facilitates personal growth and development while also propelling societal advancement.When people cultivate positive relationships with others,they become more willing to share knowledge and experiences, which fosters personal learning and development.At the societal level,friendly coexistence encourages communication and cooperation among diverse groups, driving innovation and societal progress.
4.Benefits.
First, college students can communicate with their peers and make like-minded friends by participating in student organizations, club activities and social gatherings. This can help build supportive and encouraging relationships and maintain mental health.
Secondly, interpersonal communication is also an important way to obtain social resources and enhance one's competitiveness. By associating with excellent people, we can learn their advantages and experiences and get more opportunities and information.
In addition, interpersonal communication also helps college students to develop their personality charm and social skills, so that their interpersonal relationship is more harmonious.